I find that all our arguments get resolved much better on a clear head, a good nights sleep, and a full stomach. However, as a single person you only have to worry about your finacial approach to life and not have to align your money values with a partner.
this is my mere observations of my parents' marriage, which is approaching 40 years. Marriage has brought contentment, warmth, a feeling of peace, but also hour-long conversations on whether we can afford to order take-out, generic vs.
Thank you thank you thank you for the advice- it's in line with everything I've been reading and praying about in my marriage preparation. :) One thing I've come across that I have really taken to heart and already put into practice is that I need to always respect him (even when he doesn't deserve it).
It sorta flows with a lot of the advice here, I never realized how much respect means to men before this whole journey into marriage thing.
But please see both sides of the finacial coin on married vs. I would use "Avoid going to bed mad whenever possible" rather than "Never go to bed mad" because there will be times you will end up going to bed mad and you may need that distance or time to get your own feeling under control, but most of the time you need to talk it out and it's better you get past the issue before going to bed.
Now that said, Pete is right there are times an issue cannot be resolved before bedtime, and I have found yes, I don't sleep as well, but usually what was monumental the day before is not so huge the next day.Additionally, I finally learned the difference between her wanting me to give actual advice versus her method of venting.Now I know that when she complains about someone or something, and I recommend a course of action, and she doesn't even try to take it, that she's just venting.Phrases such as staying together “richer or poorer” and “in sickness and in health” don’t describe hypothetical situations but future reality. With all good intentions, you aren't thinkng rationally when it's getting late, you have to wake up early the baby is cying, and both of you are crying. I'd be much more interested to hear how I can be happy and single, because I really hate coming home to an empty house and having to do all the chores and pay for everything myself. Compete with other couples if you’d like but never with each other. It's much better to go to bed mad, if necessary, so that you can cool off, understand your own emotions, organize your thoughts, and talk things through later in a way that you won't regret. My biggest advice: communicate, communicate, communicate. My second piece of advice: make sure you each take time for yourself. It always helps me to remember that my husband is a totally separate person from me--different thoughts, feelings, past experiences, etc.