This connected me to people who spent a lot of time playing tabletop roleplaying games, reading fantasy novels, and making pop culture references to approved geeky television shows, none of which are things which interest me particularly.
Eventually I realized that I am not actually just popped out of the stereotypical modern geek mold, and it was lazy, inaccurate, and ineffective to act like I was.
Ancestral: "I like listening to music and hanging out with my friends." Derived: "I like taking photographs and playing board games." Notice that it's not about specificity.
The second set of interests isn't very much more specific than the first one. Therefore, they do a better job of identifying where you fit in personspace, and in fewer words.
Last month, Will_Newsome started a thread about OKCupid, one of the major players among online dating sites--especially for the young-and-nerdy set, given their mathematical approach to matching.
Get into the habit of noticing things in your day-to-day life which excite you, please you, infuriate you, or make you think.For the convenience of newcomers to online dating, here's a quick laundry list of cliches which are so common as to tell the reader nothing about you: Concrete Advice #3: Omit all of these: "it's hard to summarize myself" "what should I say here" "I'm contradictory" "I'm nice" "I'm shy until you get to know me" "the first thing people notice is my eyes" "I need [obvious literal things] to live" "if it were private I wouldn't write it here" "you can ask me anything" and explicit suggestions that the reader should date you, even tongue-in-cheek hard to summarize yourself.It's hard to recognize the parts of yourself which matter, and even harder to remember them later when you're staring at a form on a webpage.Of course, datadataeverywhere added, that's exactly the Mythbusters formula.They're both junk food science, but it's also the only look at their data we're going to get, so I'll link a few relevant OKTrends posts in the appropriate sections.