That doesn’t mean that we have a hidden abusive streak in us.
To the contrary, it probably means that we believe that everyone deserves to be treated with a measure of respect.
What do you see when you look at the world around you?
What do you see when you look at the people around you?
Once we become aware of the fact that what we believe about ourselves is being revealed by the quality of our relationships, it puts us in an excellent position to address any belief that we are not especially pleased with.
It’s much easier to give credit for our discomfort to someone else. After all, who of us wants to think that that annoying person we just met is somehow a reflection of an inner insecurity?None of this is designed to hurt anyone’s feelings. If we are harboring negative or limiting beliefs about ourselves, chances are pretty good that we are already in pain because of it.We can’t work on a problem until we are aware that there is a problem. Many people are consistently attracted to people who reinforce their limiting beliefs.If you’re harboring hidden fears and insecurities, and what someone else is saying or doing is reinforcing those, you’re going to feel uncomfortable around them. Likewise, when you’re around people who encourage you to feel loved and appreciated, part of what you are feeling is a reflection of your own belief that you deserve to be loved and appreciated.In this case, the people around you are reinforcing an empowering belief that you have about yourself.