To end it with that guy who makes me feel just a little bit empty, I have to believe that what I’m looking for is out there, even though I’ve yet to encounter it — or, at the very least, seen it stabilize into a lasting relationship.
But our generation just wasn’t designed to settle on connection. More women are more financially independent and self-supporting than ever before, surging past our male counterparts.
I’ve seen a lot of women internalize the idea that they are “picky” and decide to try being a little bit lonely within a relationship.
One friend, over coffee, 10 months in with her girlfriend, said she felt “destined” for that distinct form of emptiness.
I related when Rashida Jones, in an interview for So then, with dating, I was looking for something else.
With increasing “options” in the dating landscape, we’re also delaying marriage and kids in favor of playing life’s great field, frequently to gather data and solidify what we’re looking for.
The truth of the matter is no one tells you what it looks like to settle.
Maybe that’s because most people feel unsure about what it looks like.
A recent study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science revealed that those considering a breakup typically had firm reasons for leaving and for staying.
This leads to an I-don’t-know-maybe-I-should-but-then-again-maybe-I-shouldn’t sort of ambivalence where something tells you that you should probably end it, but then again, it’s pretty…okay.