However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control.
Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected. If you think your relationship is unhealthy, it’s important to think about your safety now.
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them, are the most apparent forms of domestic violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem.
However, regular use of other abusive behaviors by the batterer, when reinforced by one or more acts of physical violence, make up a larger system of abuse.
If so, find a fun, simple activity you both enjoy, like going on a walk, and talk about the reasons why you want to be in the relationship.
Then, keep using healthy behaviors as you continue dating.
Laws vary from state to state so chat with a peer advocate to learn more.
If you are still unsure whether you’re in a healthy relationship, our Healthy Relationships Quiz can help you.
Abuse, Power, and Control: The Power & Control Wheel The Cycle of Abuse Breaking Free: Escaping Bad Relationships Getting Yourself Out Assisting a Friend Helping Your Teen Get Help: Hotlines Additional Resources The power and control wheel is a visual display of different types of abuse that occur in abusive relationships.
By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want.
Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.” Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship.
If you’re single (and especially if you’re a single parent), don’t worry if you need a boost too!
Being single can be the best and worst feeling, but remember relationships don’t just include your significant other and you.