Expressing amusement shows you have a sense of humor, and the casual nature of these terms allows you to "lower your guard," in a sense. You should also avoid writing a boring autobiography explaining who you are; if people are interested they can read your profile or ask.And do not suggest the two of you meet up, or even exchange numbers or email addresses.Warm compliments work well in first messages, but superficial compliments can have the reverse effect.In general, everyone enjoys a compliment; however, when compliments are used to hit on someone, before you have even met the person, they're just creepy.Ok Cupid found that first messages containing the phrase "you mention" were replied to 48% of the time.Reference something important to both you and the recipient to make your message personal and form a connection.Not only do misspellings and grammatical errors create a poor image, they have been shown to significantly decrease the chances of getting a reply to your first message. The study conducted by Ok Cupid showed that messages containing netspeak were responded to up to 26% less than those written with proper spelling and grammar. First messages should be conversation starters and nothing more.
Paying a compliment can also help make your message personal if you compliment something specific in their profile.A good first message might look something like the following: "What?!You run marathons but 'movie marathons' is your favorite activity… " A generic greeting, improper grammar, and a shallow pick-up attempt all make this a terrible first message.Take care, however, not to let your vulnerability give way to desperation; this will not work in your favor.We were shocked by which greetings led to the most responses.