Either he's being really forward with you or that "thinking of you" text was only sent to you because he wasn't paying attention.4.
You get a text that seems like it was meant for someone else.
2) I spot a handsome Mediterranean-looking guy going for a cigarette with his mate. They say yes and we end up talking films because they work at the cinema. 5) The problem I have with this line is it takes me quite some time to find a man whose shoes I genuinely love.
When they return and his friend goes to the loo, I swoop and ask if I can borrow his lighter. Then Dave drops a hint about his mate’s girlfriend and we move off. 4) I pick out an ice cube from my drink, carry it over to the slick-haired, muscly carpenter I have my eye on and throw it down. He laughs a bit but I soon establish James is sweet but very, very drunk. But I eventually fix on a barman with cute Jack Jones’ and lovely curly brown hair to boot.
I’ve tried this line on other men and am surprised how consistently well it works – not necessarily shoes but just complimenting something they’re wearing.
After the initial comment they always go on to chat, this guy included, so it’s a real winner.
Effectiveness – 8/10 – Funny, flattering and not sleazy. 3) I introduce myself to a ginger guy called David and his tall, cute friend and ask if we can sit with them. Plus who wants to carry ice about and get their hands all wet?
There was a huge range – from subtle, chatty openers to cheesy, outrageous lines.
I didn’t know whether it would be better to go for a simple greeting or an attention-grabbing joke.
Effectiveness – 2/10 – Only use this if they’re wearing a United shirt and you give a crap about United.
7) I spot John, a smart-looking bloke with a buzz cut chatting to an older group of guys in the smoking area. I’ll give you A, B and C if you give me the D.’ I can’t believe I’ve said this to a total stranger and, once he’s stopped laughing, he tells me it’s awful then changes his mind and says he gives it 8 or 9 as a line. Men are amazingly forgiving when it comes to being chatted up – no one gave me a hard time. Go out as a trio rather than a pair to try these out so, if one of them works well, the other isn’t abandoned. It takes guts to chat someone up, especially if the person you like is in a group of friends, so maybe don’t be so brutal next time someone approaches you. It doesn’t really matter what you say as long as you say SOMETHING – staring wistfully at a hot guy / girl won’t get you anywhere.