A boss calls her subordinate’s work “okay” – did she mean to compliment him, or imply it was mediocre?
A friend breaks off two appointments in a row, each time saying that something has come up – did something come up, or is he getting tired of the friendship?
” And later, my supervisor was reviewing one of my therapy sessions, and I was surprised to hear him comment that I “seemed uncomfortable with dramatic expressions of emotion”.
I mean, I am uncomfortable with dramatic expressions of emotion. As a therapist, I’m supposed to be quiet and encouraging and not show discomfort at anything, and I was trying to do that, and I’d thought I was succeeding.
These are the sorts of questions everyone navigates all the time, usually with enough success that when autistic people screw them up, the rest of society nods sagely and says they need to learn to understand how to read context.
But “context” means “priors”, and priors can differ from person to person.
This means that it is essentially biologically impossible for [them] to distrust.
As Isabelle got older, the negative side of her trusting nature began to play a larger role.
For every intellectually disabled person, there are a dozen who are just kind of dumb.Each datum permits multiple possible explanations: this is true of visual and auditory perception, but also of the social world.A pretty girl laughs a little too long at a man’s joke; is she trying to flirt with him, or just friendly?This is worrying not just as a psychiatrist, but as someone who wants to know anything about other people at all. You can also get it from abusing certain drugs – marijuana, LSD, cocaine, and even prescription drugs like Adderall and Ritalin. Sure, if you abuse every single drug at once you’ll think the CIA is after you with their mind-lasers.But if you just take a little more Adderall than you were supposed to, you’ll be 1% paranoid.