There are all kinds of reasons why this is such an issue for women and why men are so oblivious to it – reasons we’ve discussed at length in previous articles– but the takeaway is that this whole thing is a non-issue for men. Yeah, they’ll text a lot in the beginning when they’re trying to win you over, but it’s not sustainable or realistic to continue at that level indefinitely.
In the beginning, it’s all new and fresh and if he’s really into you he will be thinking about you a lot and will feel the urge to text you frequently.
The mistake that many make is thinking that the sudden drop in texts means he’s losing interest or doesn’t care. Most often, he’s just settling back into his normal routine.
You can’t measure the depth of a relationship by the amount of texts received on average per day or how much time has elapsed in between each text.
(Source) If a man is at work, then that is the sole center of his world and nothing exists outside of that.
The fact that a man doesn’t text you as much or as often as you’d like doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you – he’s usually just focusing on something else and most men have a difficult time seeing beyond a given task at hand.
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She may start to obsess over why he hasn’t said it and what it means.
While she’s trapped in her head, she’ll ignore all the amazing things he does for her, the things that should show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that he loves her! This doesn’t mean they’re incapable of feeling love, – it just means they often have a hard time saying it out loud.
I don’t know what the biggest relationship concern was back in the days of touch-tone phones, but these days, it’s all about a guy’s texting habits: why he used to text so much in the beginning and then stopped, why he takes so long to reply, why he disappears for days at a time, why his texts are so short, etc., etc.
The really sad/funny thing is that men have NO idea how intensely their texting habits are being scrutinized.